Whether you are in a new relationship and want to proactively strengthen your bond, or you are many years into a relationship and feeling hurt or disconnected, couples counseling can help you find a way forward.
Couples therapy supports you and your partner in clarifying your individual needs, communicating more effectively, hearing and supporting each other, and challenging unhelpful patterns in order to make space for the relationship that you want going forward. Counseling provides a safe space for each of you to express yourself in new ways, and we use dynamic, in-the-room exercises to help interrupt hurtful patterns and create momentum towards a healthier partnership.
Common areas addressed
Many couples struggle with:
- Communication difficulties
- Disconnection or lack of interest
- Infidelity or broken trust
- Sexual intimacy issues
- Feeling disconnected
- Different parenting styles
- Career or financial concerns
- Extended family issues
- Effects of past trauma on partner(s)
How counseling can help:
- Reduce conflict and hurtful responses
- Break old patterns and create new, healthier interactions
- Learn more about yourself and your partner
- Practice expressing your needs and validating the needs of your partner
- Increase awareness of your own emotional patterns
- Explore role of intimacy in your relationship
- Add more fun and enjoyment to your relationship
If you are interested in working on any of these or other issues, visit the contact page to set up your first counseling appointment.
My approach to therapy is individualized for each couple, and is grounded primarily in Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy, Family Systems Theory and Gottman principles. From this perspective, I work with you to explore each of your individual experiences and needs, as well as how they interact in your relationship. Emotion-Focused work encourages exploring and experiencing your emotions in the room as useful information to help you connect with, and articulate, your deeper needs. Gottman work involves increasing positive interactions in your relationship and decreasing harmful interactions in order to heal past hurts and move forward with healthier relational habits. Systems work takes into account that we all live in the context of relationships with others, and that we are impacted by these relationships within a larger sociocultural context. Through a systems lens, we can explore how you might hold onto your true self and ask for your needs to be met, while at the same time connecting with others in a way that fits with your deepest held values.